My cousin had an interview today for a govt job which honestly no matter how much I encouraged her i wasnt sure she would be getting… I made dua for her last couple days even yesterday in tahajjud… just a while ago in sujood during dhuhr i dont know why i just made a sincere heartfelt dua for her i really wanted this job for her… that very moment she texted me that she got that job…
Even for her marriage i remember I made this really heartfelt dua and her marriage was fixed within a month or two. I wanted for her exactly what I would want for myself . The prophet (peace be upon him) said a true believer is one who wishes for his brother/sister what s/he would want for themselves. Its not that I am particularly good or worthy, I am no saint or angel. Rather its about the promise of messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) that the dua of a muslim in absence of his brother is surely accepted. Its about truly wanting for someone what you would want for yourself, stepping in their shoes and feeling that emotion as you make dua. Dua is an art.
I think the reason its easy to make dua for others because we are less attached to the outcome. For ourselves we worry a lot about the outcome but for others we just make dua, not wondering if it will get answered or not. We dont obsess on the result as much. That truely affects the answer.
I think the reason it is easy to make dua for others is even though we feel the emotion, we are less attached to the outcome or obsess less on the result when the dua is for someone else. Whereas for ourselves, there is too much “Definitely, Maybe” involved. That is understandable, because we are humans and its part of our how we are created. We can’t defy or deny that. We worry a lot on the outcome when it is about ourselves and that affects the outcome.
So go ahead and trade dua this Ramadan. Make dua for others and ask them to make for you (of course you must make dua too you cant rely solely on others).Ask Allah to send you people who will sincerely ask for you, and not do a lip service with some fancy words.
If you still find noone, well then you know the drill- make dua sincerely for others because angels are saying “ameen may you be granted the same” after every dua everytime you make. You cant make a human being make dua for you so many times but most definitely the angels appointed at your service by Allah are programed to do so. So use it to your advantage. Be smart!!!