Of Advice And Instilling A Sense Of Helplessness

If you come across someone who is always overthinking and overly anxious,please understand that they do not do it by choice. Do not condemn or dismiss their worries. Understand that noone deliberately chooses to make themselves miserable by always thinking of the worst possible outcomes. They just can’t help it. Not everyone has the same capabilities as you.Telling them to stop worrying is perhaps not a good idea considering they must have told that to their ownselves a million times. It will only make them feel helpless. They will not tell that to you, obviously because you are only trying to help. But let me tell you, my friend, it really is NOT helping. If any, its only making them feel miserable.

Try to help them find a way out. Try to show them the alternate possibilities of a good outcome. Understand how much they are capable of, and tell them stories of experiences from their own lives, not yours. Show them the brighter side from incidences they have experiened, not those you did. In the process,teach them that not everything has a bad outcome.

So yes, know better to counsel them from stories from their lives, not yours. Knowing about how you fought your battles will only make them feel more incapable and inadequate.

Which is why I never seek counsel from people.

Advice is like snow. The softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks in the mind. – Samuel Taylor Coleridge


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