Day 3:Ramadan DUAries (Dua+Stories=DUAries)

Something very strange happened. I follow an app where people can post the duas they need and others can hit the pray button to say ameen to their prayers. For the past few days this brother has been constantly posting a desperate plea to be with his wife, and another sister has been posting the same, to be with her husband. For some reason both their duas hit a cord with me I found myself praying for them many times. Last night before sleeping as I was making dua I just had a thought what are tha chances they both are married? Then I ditched the idea because they both are from different parts of the world and it didnt seem like a good idea to speculate something like that.Just a while ago I was revising that app again and I saw that sister copied and pasted the brother’s dua, just changed to “husband” from “wife”. Otherwise the details of their situation and everything else is just the same.

SubhanAllah I dont know what Allah’s underlying message here is but I really thought it was sweet how their love transmits to others even in this dark time of their lives.
So then may be it happens to us too? When we are in the darkest moments of our lives, may be even through that darkness Al Jameel, The Beautiful One orchestrates a beautiful serendipity like this for us in the hearts of someone? May be our pain resonates with someone ans our story spreads like this, much to our own oblivion? We all must have had so many of such moments- the stranger across the cafe, the cleaner down the road, the pedestrian across the street, we dont know whose heart Allah decides to resonate through our hardship. Even in distress somewhere, somehow, a beautiful serendipity might happen. 

No wonder Allah begins the Quran by describing the people of taqwa (people who are mindful of Allah) as those who believe in the unseen.

Sure this story is not enough of a gratitude consolation when reality is bent on ripping you apart left and right, and that is not what it is intended for. I am absolutely against the idea of guilt tripping people into gratitude- with things like “be grateful for eyes” etc. While there is nothing wrong with that in fact its actually a hadith, we also need to remember that some peopl struggle with gratitude. Its sometimes difficult to come despite attempts. No one likes to feel ungrateful but sometimes we confuse gratitude with contentment. Nothing numbs some pain but may be once the pain is over we can look back and ponder on some good things that could have come out of that.

Day II: Ramadan DUAries (Dua+ Stories= Duaries)

So I ordered this charger for my phone on Amazon. I wasnt sure if its worth the money even though the reviews were phenomenal so just to calm myself down I made the istikhara dua once before i confirmed the payment. The shipment arrived and it was exactly what they advertised. As I tried plugging into my phone it turned that the advertisement was incorrect and its really not compatible with my version of the phone. I remember I made that istighfar dua really sincerely from my heart, so it just didnt add up or make sense to me. The charger is supposed to work as per my dua, so I was confused.
I wrote to the seller and explained the situation. They were extremely nice and apologized. I wrote a pretty bitter review because I was upset and they offered me full refund and no return. I calmed down, that atleast I didnt lose money. So Alhamdulillah for that. But that meant I had to reorder another headphone and the none of the other sellers had reliable delivery. So bottom line I needed a headphone which is compatible with my phone and no good seller was available.

Remind you that they let me keep the “incompatible” headphone with full refund. So being technologically chanllenged, it took me a while to realise I could use an adapter. So my friend told me about a place where I can get it because adapters in amazon had poor review. When I ordered the adapter from the place I was recommended, guess what? I paid HALF the price as i paid for the charger.

Charger costed $20 which they returned. So I basically paid nothing

Adapter costed $10.

For $10 bucks I got BOTH ADAPTER AND HEADPHONE,whereas I was expecting that it would cost me so much more.

So yeah, the istikhara did add up and work out alhamdulillah.

And yes, I deleted the review from Amazon lol.

Ramadan Diary: I

An hour before Maghrib, my friend who has been battling with severe faith issues texts me she suddenly feels an excitement inside. Even yesterday she was about to give up. When Maghrib adhan rings, another friend said she suddenly felt a weight being lifted off of her chest. This morning she was gloomy with no motivation.

When I was making wudu for Maghrib, I suddenly felt a strength inside me that this Ramadan I am not alone left to fight my battle. I have few more friends on similar journey, holding onto this month of mercy like our lives depend upon it.

(We all by the way are that bunch who are not too motivated to do Ramadan, past experiences gone bad kind of. Its hard to rise up and hope again.)

Ramadan Mubarak Everyone! May this be the life changing Ramadan we all desperately are seeking.May all your wishes be granted this month.

Lets start. Bismillah.

Lazy Folk’s Ramadan (2)


Have you made a list of what you will ask for in the last 10 nights of Ramadan? Allah will write your destiny and you actually have a say in what will be written, afterall nothing can change destiny except dua. So if you havent made a list you dont want wait till Ramadan to make it, when you are juggling between so many things and conserving your energy.

But thats not only why I am writing this post.

Are you planning on making dua for others too in the last ten nights? Don’t be selfish take some time out for others too. Here is why:
1) Your dua in their absence is guaranteed to be accepted 


2) The angels will make the same dua for you as you will make for someone else. Whose dua do you think has better chances of being accepted? So if you want something for yourself, ask that thing for someone else. Let the angels ask for you

3) If you help someone Allah will help you so just imagine through your dua you can help someone

Tip: Please make sure your dua for the person is heartfelt. Make dua as if you are making for youself. Allah is watching your sincerity. The most honorable thing to Allah is dua so dont be like the people who just make dua for someone for the sake of it. Take some time and concentration,care and use nice words. 


Allah is Al Jameel The Beautiful One. He is Beautiful and loves beauty so use beautiful words to decorate your duas. Use a dictionary if you need. You would use it if you were applying for a job, wouldnt you? Then why not now?

Lazy Folk’s Ramadan


If you could pick ONE deed you will do regularly this Ramadan (instead of overwhelming yourself with a plate full and then giving up midway), what would that be?
Mine is DUA. Because the prophet (peace be upon him) said dua is the essence of worship. So no matter what you do, if the underlying intention is not tied to acceptance of dua, its basically losing the prime factor. So if faced with a choice, pick dua. After all your duas especially the last ten nights will determine the chain of events in the next one year. So if possible, make a list so you dont forget.

Dont forget, the most honorable thing to Allah is dua. He loves that you ask and gets upset if you dont. So dua away like nobody’s business.

And believe that He will give like nobody’s business. Because it really isnt. He promises to give whoever He wills without limits.

The Struggle For Gratitude


Being grateful does NOT mean being content. If we were to remain content with everything there would be no point of making dua and asking for things. Allah wouldnt have commanded us to make dua during times of ease if we were to remain content with what we have. Being grateful just means to acknowledge what Allah has already given us, reflect on them and praise and thank Him for them. It does not mean we settle. In fact Allah commands us to pursue a life of excellence and ask for His bounty. Allah says in the Quran in Surah Rum that seeking His bounty is actually one of His signs. So yes, sometimes you will feel grateful but also simultaneously you will feel what you have is not enough, it just doesnt cut it. Thats okay, Allah said to be grateful for things He has already given you, and thats it. Human beings taught you to settle, not Allah. So dont confuse it.

Also, if dont guilt trip yourself to feel grateful. Its good to look at people who are less privileged than you and reflect on your blessings, but its a whole different story altogether to just not ask for anymore because “you already have so much” or do just feel guilty that you are so blessed. 

One last thing, dont fight yourself to feel the gratitude rush all the time. When Prophet Yaqoob lost his youngest son, Allah didnt tell him to be grateful for the other ten. Allah allowed him to whine and complain like nobody’s business, and even recorded it for you and I to take inspiration from. 

Complains Do Not Negate Gratitude: Counsel From The Quran

Complains and gratitude are not mutually exclusive. You can grieve and complain to Allah, and yet remain grateful. When Prophet Yaqoob lost his 10year old son Yusuf, he was devastated and he cried so much he lost his eye sight. Yet when Allah narrates us the story,  NO WHERE does He mention anything about gratitude. Allah never tells him to be grateful that his other sons are alive. None. In fact, Allah captures his struggle by actually telling us that his grief did in fact affect his health, people around him were uncomfortable with his sorrow so they told him to move on- all things that every single one of us unfortunately have heard or told others. 

In this very famous verse Allah actually glorifies the fact that this prophet did complain. He kept telling Allah about his sorrow UNAPOLOGETICALLY. Unlike us humans, Allah did not guilt trip him into being grateful to supress his emotions. In His immense wisdom Allah never tells us to suppress our emotions because He knows it is not healthy.

What is also remarkable is that Allah revealed this story when His messenger (peace be upon him) needed counsel, when he was goung through the most difficult phase of his life. So basically even to his messenger (peace be upon him) Allah did not condemn his grief or ask him to stop complaining and be grateful. Allah gave both these prophets the time and space to grieve, to mourn. Allah acknowledged their sorrow and if any He actually tells us that through their legacies that we can turn to Him too to complain. Complain with unwavering certainty that Allah will change our condition for the better.


Even in this very famous verse of gratitude if you look at the background, Allah revealed it to the Children of Israel after Pharaoh killed their baby boys. Allah through His messenger Moses consoled them and encouraged them to be grateful. But Allah did NOT negate their grief or ask them to stop complaining. That is not a practice of Allah. He gives us the leeway to be grateful and still lament.

Basically what I am trying to convey is that we shouldn’t be ungrateful. We shouldn’t try to negate the value of what we have. But that does not mean that we settle with our miseries. It does not mean we pretend life is a bed of roses when in reality it might be not. There is a reason Allah says in the Quran “and do not forget your share of the world” (28:77)

So relieve yourself of that burden today. That burden where you are “supposed” to be only grateful and not complain. You can do both. You can complain to Allah, complain like nobody’s business, pour out to Him every bitterness that is there. As long as you are not being ungrateful, as long as you are not dismissing the favors He has done to you, you are good. “Remember Me, I will remember you. Be grateful to Me and do not deny Me.”(2:152). 

If you are still unsure, try it today. I do this experiment with myself. I was at a very bad situation and I complained to Allah a lot, but the whole time I kept an eye on my attitude. I figured that I did not feel “ingratitude”, I did feel grateful for what I have, but the pain of what I dont have, that sense of inadequacy created from that void was unbearable. 

Pain is given to us for a reason, to feel it. Feeling the sense of incompleteness for the things we do not have in life, for our unfulfilled dreams, wishes and desires, its part of our human creation. It is how Allah created us. We cant cloak them up with veils of gratitude and run away from acknowledging those emotions. Gratitude has its own place and so does our want and need for a better life.